Many people are just happily (or unhappily) going along, day by day, month by month, year by year, stuck in the routine of their life, just growing old …
Are you one of these people? If so, pause for a moment and ask yourself the big question:
Do you like your life?
No, really, do you like it?
If you do, that’s great. But if you don’t or even if you like some aspects of it but not all of it, then it’s time to do something about it. You have a choice. The choice to continue as you are or to change. Not doing anything IS a choice.
Now, consider this. You have one life, one shot at it, every second is gone forever. And yes, there is comfort in choosing to do nothing. It’s easier. But you will be stuck in that life you don’t like.
It’s completely up to you and if you do want to do something about it, then, let’s start the journey!
First things first. What is it that you don’t like in your life? Your job? Your relationship with your partner, your kids, your relatives, your friends? Your work/life balance? …
How much do you not like it? A little? A lot? What is it that you would like to fix first?
The Life Coaching Wheel (or ‘Wheel of Life’)
To answer all these questions, a little picture will speak a thousand words so let me introduce to you the Wheel of Life. (a graphical example of a life coaching wheel or wheel of life is shown above). It’s a simple tool used by all life coaches. It’s simple but very powerful because it forces you to examine the different areas of your life and will highlight clearly where the problems lie.
1. Take a piece of paper and write down 8 areas that are important to you.
Here are some examples of areas to choose from, feel free to change their names or add new labels that are more appropriate to you and your life.
- Partner/Romance Friends Career
- Home (Physical environment)
- Financial Prosperity
- Contribution to Society
- Fun / Recreation
- Time Management
- Personal Growth / Development
- Family / Relatives
- Work-life balance
- Spirituality (Religion, ethics, values)
- Health (Nutrition, Exercise, Stress)
2. Draw a circle with 8 lines coming from the center like spokes on a bike’s wheel.
Name each line with one of your chosen areas.
Now assign each spoke a number (from 0 at the center to 10 at the perimeter of the circle). 0 means you’re not satisfied at all with that area, 10 that you’re completely satisfied.
Repeat for each area.
3. Join all the numbers assigned on each spoke.
What you will see appearing is a shape that represents your life. Is it round? balanced? could it turn? are there peaks and troughs?
Which areas are you the most dissatisfied with?
There might be several but you cannot work on all of them at once.
Prioritize and choose the one you really want to work on, the one that will make an impact in your life.
That’s it, you’ve got it? Then, let’s get started.
Write down what it would need to be like for that area to be a 10.
Setting Your Goal
This is going to be your goal. But there’s no point being completely unrealistic. If you are heavily in debt, you’re unlikely to be a multi-millionaire tomorrow. You need a goal that is challenging but within you control to achieve. You need a goal that is truly yours, not something you partner, your mum, etc… think would be good for you. You need something that is really in line with your principles and values. You also need to consider the impact achieving this goal will have on others. There’s no point fixing one area if you’re creating more problems in another one.
Is your goal positive and inspiring? If not, make it so. Try and make it as precise as possible. when will you achieve it (in 3 months, 6 months, a year?).
Once you have something you’re happy with, rewrite it so it is in the present tense as though you had already achieved it. This is a little trick to make your mind accept it as a reality, not something that will always be in the future.
That’s it, you’ve got your goal.
How Motivated are You to Achieve Your Goal?
Now let me ask you a simple question. How important is it for you to achieve it? out of 10?
Ideally you want it to be 10. If it isn’t, you probably won’t put all the effort you need into achieving it and maybe you should look at fixing another area in your life.
If it is a 10 then write down the answers to these questions:
- What difference would it make for you to achieve it?
- What difference would it make for others around you?
Hopefully, the difference in your life and those around you should be really positive.
You should by now be very motivated in achieving this goal.
Let’s not lose any time. Read our next tip to start making positive changes in your life NOW.