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Stress: It’s Not The Stress That Kills Us… — 7 Comments

  1. I used believed that being stressed is a bad thing. While I do have the tendency to worry over many things, I was able to not stress about it for a long time by accepting and letting go, mainly because I’m stressed by things which are out of my control. I did came across opportunities to use the stress I feel to be able to accomplish what I needed to do.
    This post was indeed timely, Isabelle. Thanks for writing this.

  2. I agree. Stress cannot be that bad when we just react naturally. Reaction really hurts us especially when we feel it too much.

  3. I also believe that it is our reaction to it that hurts us more. I usually try to remain calm but I also have times when I get quietly upset by things and it eats at me and keeps me thinking, when I should just let it go.

    • Hi Jennifer,
      I also sometimes get these lingering unhelpful thoughts I just can’t shake easily. The good news is that recognizing these thoughts as unhelpful (like you do too) is half the battle. Techniques like positive thinking, meditation, mindfulness help me let go. So does talking to my husband… he always tells me when I’m being an idiot thinking too much!
      Take a look at our mindfulness article here . It might help you too.
      Best wishes
      Isabelle

  4. Isabelle,
    I love that quote. It really is true that it’s not stress that kiss us it’s our reaction to it. It can make the difference between being happy and not being happy.
    I think as i’ve gotten older i’ve started experiencing good stress in more areas of my life. All those stress factors I used to worry about as a young 23 year old mom seem trivial when i look back. But now with three kids, two of whom are teenagers, i’m experiencing some really bad stress. I still have not learned to let go and it’s causing me so much angst. Another mom who is 10 years my senior said to me yesterday, the things i worry about are just not that bad. ( I don’t like my kids watching t.v. or playing video games). After listening to her talk for a little bit i realized i was creating my own stress and that watching tv once in a while and playing video games is not that big of a deal. I feel much less stressed after just mentally letting go and saying to myself, “it’s ok”.
    So strange..

    • Hi Annie,

      Generally, we (and I’m guilty too!) tend to think too much… and consequently worry too much. We worry because we care but, sometimes, we just get in our own way. And make it worse for ourselves and others. I too find that it’s all about knowing how much and when to let go. My son is pre-teen and I know I’m going to have to learn a lot… first thing on my agenda is to learn to trust him, trust him to get on with things, trust him to make his own mistakes and learn from them… but be around to help if and when needed. Quite an adjustment! Hopefully, I won’t get too stressed in the process 🙂

      Take care
      Isabelle

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