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Questions (aka The Dangers of Self-Help & Positivity) — 5 Comments

  1. Very well said, Alan!

    I believe the people who teach the so-called law of attraction (and within Christian circles “name it and claim it”) are much like the snake oil salesmen of yore. Is “fraud” to harsh a word?

    Yet, like you, I’m well aware of the thin line. This is part of what I see as the difference — an athlete standing at the start line doesn’t visualize standing on the podium receiving the gold, he does see himself lifting one foot then the next.

    Now, I’m off to check out your link.

    • Thanks Yvonne,

      – and thanks for signing up to Networking Secrets, it will be good to see you there when we launch – there should be some good material (we’ve got a few guest authors I’m quite excited about) and some good discussion – it is a site about networking after all πŸ˜‰

      a bientΓ΄t,
      Alan

  2. I believe in both positivity and cynicism; I believe in possibilities, so I do believe that cynicism exists, that people are only motivated by self-interest. At the same time, there is a chance that cynicism doesn’t exist or that positivity triumphs over cynicism, so I believe in positivity too πŸ™‚ Or perhaps both exists, but neither is the winner?

    Personally, I like to be cynical. People are selfish, and I am okay with that. But, we have social responsibilities, responsibilities we must meet; we have an obligation towards our species and our planet (perhaps we might not. It’s all about possibilities :D)

    Questions πŸ˜€ I love questions (and I love answering them or trying to find an answer).

    Am I ready for this is way better than I can do this πŸ˜‰ I do agree. I hadn’t realized that until I read a book (it was few months ago. I think the book is “What makes your brain happy and why you shouldn’t do the opposite. I don’t quite remember).

    Ask questions, find answers! You are right, Alan. Asking questions opens up our minds, but we must also be careful not to spend too much time on asking questions. Action is also required, right? Don’t waste our time trying to answer the “impossible” questions – or at least questions that are deemed impossible to answer with our current knowledge.

    • I like that Jeevan – I believe in possibilities. The truth is that they’re everywhere, but we can miss them with both positivity and also with cynicism (it’s possible to go too far either way).

      Yep – am I ready for this is better (usually) in my book too – why? Because by asking ourselves we also challenge ourselves and have to answer that question, then validating that indeed we are ready (or that we aren’t in which case we do something about it rather than stumbling into something unprepared). By challenging ourselves before an important occasion to double-check if we really are ready for something and answering that, we should come out of the other side far more motivated by the answers we have given ourselves than we ever would be from a shallow ‘Go get em tiger!’

      On your final point – yes, questions should be followed by action to address them – just asking questions then hovering around worrying about all the questions is more about procrastination (if you’re interested we have a pretty good article on how to avoid that with a rather amusing vid: How To Avoid Procrastination) – asking a question is just about identifying that there is something to be addressed – you may have the answer immediately or have work to do, either way, whether you take action or not is nothing to do with whether you should have been asking the question in the first place – if there is a question there to be asked, you should be asking it.

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