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Stress: How Can I Tell If I am Stressed? — 14 Comments

  1. Hi Sally,

    I’m not sure what you’re referring to as we are UK based too (based in the Peak District) and we’re not trying to sell you anything. The article that Isabelle pointed you to is more free advice and it’s just one of many articles we have which are all free.

    In addition to that, Isabelle offered you further help via email – I’m not really sure how you could take her comment badly but I’m sorry you feel that way.

    If what you’re referring to is our e-course, then yes this is a paid course but that’s not where Isabelle directed you and there’s plenty of free advice here – some of the articles on our site (all of which are free) do have links to our e-course as it’s a related subject but these are just links (we are also a business after all) – and if you look they’re hardly a hard-sell.

    Of course Isabelle couldn’t give you all the advice you need in a single comment without knowing more about your situation, but she tried to help point you in the right direction. Drop one of us an email if you want to and if we can help, we will (just reply to any email if you’re on our subscribers list (which is also free) or if not use the contact form).

    In any case I wish you all the best and I hope you find the advice you need with or without our help,

    best wishes,
    Alan

  2. Amazing I try to have some genuine advise fee on line and I get directed to a web sit in America [ I’m english] selling me something !!!! Tks for nothing ……. I bet this doesn’t get posted !!!

  3. I’ve gone through your ck list ….4 ticks now what should I do …. I’ve googled stress as husband saying I am ….. Yes I feel upset 16 hrs a day I hate wk fell out with my daughter she not even speaking to me now 1st Xmas in 20 years with out her ……. Put official complaint in about my boss ….. Now she not talking to me at all and giving me all jobs she knows I hate !!!! Advise please

    • Hi Sally,
      I’m really sorry to hear how much stress you’re under.

      The good news is that now you realize you’re stressed, you can start doing something about it before it overwhelms you.

      You’re faced with challenging situations at work and at home but what matters is HOW you choose to react to them. Read our article: It’s not the stress that kills us, It’s our reaction to it.

      You need to start developing some coping and stress management strategies so you get your stress under control.

      Send me an email to let me know how it goes.
      I wish you all the very best.
      Isabelle

  4. Hello
    Great post – thank you. I would like to emphasize one thing – very often people stress over things they cannot change. This kind of behavior is one of the worst things you can do. The best thing to do is leave those things alone. It is wise to focus on positive and positive future instead.
    Best Regards
    Mat

    • Hi Mat,

      So true. Worrying about things we cannot change or correct is the second mistake in the 6 Mistakes of man by Cicero. We love this list. Alan wrote an article about it here.
      Sometimes, altering things that cause us stress is the right response. But, when it cannot be done, we need to accept, let go and move on… for our own sake.

      Many thanks for your comment
      Isabelle

  5. I learned that if I don’t workout I tend to get into the stress mode. This works for me. And also not watching the news. This helps a great deal. Because I believe all the negativity also gets to us sooner or later.

    • Hi Adam,

      Funny you should say so. Apparently people who read the Daily Mail (a British tabloid) and watch Eastenders are more likely to be depressed.

      Stress is a highly personal thing though. Some people will be affected by the news (and there’s plenty of bad news going round at the moment with the state of the economy), others won’t or it will take them a lot of bad news to reach the same state. Just like I would be stressed at the thought of going on a roller coaster when my kids just relish it!

      It’s great that you’ve identifiied what stresses you and have found solutions to build up your resistance to stress. Gentle regular exercise and positive thinking are good ways to fight stress off.

      Best Wishes

  6. I have a couple of questions, you seem to know what you’re talking about. Do you think stress causes more stress? And if you’re mentally focussing on the good stuff, will this reduce the stress hormones in your body so to say? I’ve always wondered about that.

    Thanks in advance
    Wouter

    • Hi Wouter,

      A one-off stressful event that you handled positively is unlikely to cause you more stress. The problem comes when stress is repetitive. As you get more and more stressed, the stress hormones that are subconsciously released by your body to help you cope with stress take longer and longer to return to normal levels (especially cortisol). Eventually, cortisol levels remain high almost all the time and the glands that produce cortisol get burnt out. At this point, you’re likely to experience exhaustion and depression (and other negative effects such as lowered immunity, blood sugar imbalances, higher blood pressure, increased abdominal fat…). So chronic stress will cause you more stress.

      You’re right, focussing on the good stuff will reduce stress. Fostering a ‘Don’t worry, be happy’ attitude will help you learn to respond to stress in a healthy way. There are other ways as well to build up your resistance to stress (relaxation, breathing, adequate nutrition, meditation, laughing,…).

      Hope this helps.
      Take care
      Isabelle

  7. People seem to get stressed all the time. I do on some level, but I try to stay calm and let it roll off. But my life is pretty calm at this point. I’m at a good point and my stress level isn’t very bad. But we all have our days when we get stressed out for some reason or other.

    • Hi Jennifer,

      I’m glad you’re at a good point in your life at the moment.

      It looks like you’ve learned to manage your stress levels – keeping calm, not letting things get to you. That’s great. That’s what we all need to learn to do. And you’re right, there will always be calls for stress but, as you build up your resistance, you’ll be more inclined to respond in a positive way and appropriately by either ignoring it or rising to the challenge with vigor and energy.

      Best Wishes

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