The words we use and even the verbs we infuse in our conversation can make or break just about anything. One NLP tip that you should be aware of is using “towards language”. This is the type of language that “moves forward” towards a goal or achievement and not “away from” it. Words such as achieve, attain, obtain, acquire, benefits, advantages, are all good examples of towards language.
For example, if you are a parent and you want to motivate your child to study harder, it is easy to say, “If you don’t study well, you will flunk and you will suffer.” Such is the language often used by a lot of parents in an effort get their children to study harder. As a result, they rarely even study. A good alternative is to use towards language. You can say something like, “If you achieve a higher than average score on this final exam, I’ll raise your allowance.” See the power of towards language? You are focusing on the positive rewards of attaining a certain goal. When you do this, you are not just motivating your child to survive, but to succeed and do more than what is expected.